
I love raspberries. Decades ago, I was deciding what kind of raspberry bushes to plant in my garden. I talked to my Uncle, Ed Mickelson, and he said yellow raspberries had the best flavor for eating fresh. He told me he couldn’t grow them in their Cambridge, Minnesota, garden because it was just a little too far north. My garden is in the City of Minneapolis where we have the advantage of a heat-island, and they do grow here. I took his advice and now I have a patch of yellow raspberries that yield their delicious berries up until the first frost.
Ed wasn’t technically my uncle. He was married to Wilma Wilkins. Wilma was my father’s double cousin. Her mother, Annie Otten, and my father’s mother, Jennie Otten, were twin sisters. They were married to brothers, Wilma’s father, Walter Wilkins, and my father’s father, John Wilkins. Annie died very young leaving Walter with four young children. In those days, there were no day care centers for single parents who needed to work. So Walter asked for help from relatives and my grandparents took Wilma and raised her along with my father, William, and his brother, Gerrit.
As a child, I was aware of this arrangement. When I was older, I told Wilma that I was confused about our relationship. I knew she was Dad’s cousin, but she was also his sister. I was never sure whether she was my cousin or aunt. Wilma responded, “I’m your aunt.” And that was that.
Wilma had her two brothers in John and Jenny’s home. She had a brother and two sisters from Walter and Annie’s family. Years later when Walter remarried, Wilma told me of visiting another sister because Walter’s wife, Margaret, had a daughter. When she married Ed Mickelson, he became my uncle. And that’s the story of how I got those yellow raspberries.